Create a Stress-Free Move for Your Children

Moving to a new home is a busy, and often stressful experience. But as difficult as it is for adults, it can be much harder for young children, especially toddlers.

Parents should know that when you’re moving with children, preschool-aged toddlers don’t react to unfamiliar circumstances the way older children and adults do. They can’t completely understand why their world is being turned upside down – the house full of moving boxes and supplies, their toys packed, and strangers from moving companies coming in and out of their house. When a child’s daily routine and sense of security are disrupted, this can lead to stress.

Young Children Experience Moving-Related Stress

Young children don’t express unhappiness and stress through words, but through actions. These actions may be something parents see on a regular basis, but if the child is exhibiting them more than usual or for longer periods of time, he/she may be experiencing stress. But by recognizing important signs of stress in youngsters, you can take steps to help the child cope.

Recognizing Relocation Stress Symptoms in Preschoolers

Keep an eye out for the following behavior: unusual anger, hitting or biting, and tantrums; crying, clinging, fear of being without you, thumb-sucking, and bed-wetting; disruption or change in eating and sleeping habits; tripping, falling, and dropping things; being upset by loud noises; the child doesn’t smile or laugh as much and/or is less outgoing.

To counterbalance the stress of the move for your child, let them help with moving preparations by putting their toys in boxes. This will make them feel more in control.  And be sure to let them know how proud you are of the job they did.

Spending More Time With Your Child When Preparing to Move

One way to help your child overcome stress is for your family to eat dinner together which creates a comforting sense of emotional and physical closeness. Likewise, taking time to play a game with your child or to read a story to them can be very reassuring.

As you spend extra time with your child, talk to them about what they’re feeling. Ask questions like, “What makes you happy or sad?” and “What were the best parts and worse parts of your day?”  This opens the door to explaining what’s happening and that everyone feels the same way he/she does. When reading a story, point out how a character handles a difficult situation and how the child can handle the move in a similar way. Making sock puppets and role playing about people moving is a simple way to see how your child is feeling and to reassure them.

By taking a few minutes to spend time and stay connected to your child during a move, the whole family will benefit as you embark on your moving adventure.